top of page

“Gimme A KISS”

This morning I was reminded of Dr. John Gottman‘s famous six-second kiss suggestion to improve one’s relationship. In previous years teaching marriage classes I used to use this research and challenge couples to kiss for six-seconds. Can you think of the last time you kissed your partner for six seconds? In a room full of kissing people, six seconds feels like a mighty long time! When compared to the brief peck hello and goodbye many grow accustomed to, it can feel like you’re practically making out! (Not a bad thing.) Take a moment to consider the last time you were really good and kissed. I’m sure for many it’s been much too long. In practice it’s not unusual to meet with couples who are still sexually active but haven’t kissed during intercourse for years. Do we even know what we are missing?

The article I came across referenced the science behind kissing, Zach Brittle states, “Kissing releases oxytocin, which is the same hormone that is secreted when breastfeeding. Oxytocin is responsible for the comfort and connection that forms between mother and child and may explain the way kissing bonds us to another. Kissing also releases dopamine, which triggers the same part of your brain that is stimulated by cocaine. Those butterflies in your stomach, they come from epinephrine and norepinephrine, which increase your heartbeat and send oxygenated blood to your brain. Some studies have even shown that kissing can cause a reduction in the hormone cortisol. Cortisol is a stress hormone, so kissing could help lower your blood pressure and prevent heart attacks.”

With all those health and relationship benefits, I hope you’ll give a six second thought to your kissing rituals and maybe turn it up a second...or six. see more

25 views0 comments


bottom of page